OK. I’ve been thinking about it for awhile, and I’m going to do it here. Post on abortion. For most of the last 2 decades, since I have been aware of this issue, I have said nothing. Nothing. My stance has been probably one from the strict pro-life side of things although I would never picket a clinic or put up crosses or go to pro-life meetings or all that stuff. My stance was really just be default. Well, I have gotten more and more irritated with the way most seriously pro-life groups of which I am aware (important distinction here as I am not trying to lump all groups into one description) seem to be at least slightly militant and slightly obscene in their methods of opposition. Please, please, please keep in mind that I am treading very lightly here. I do not want to tick anybody off, make enemies, end up with toilet paper on my yard, and all that stuff. Everybody play nice please. I am just making observations and asking questions and finally saying something.
What has finally set me off is receiving an email from someone with which I am slightly acquainted. This email dealt with a local provider of abortion services. It suggested that pictures be taken of the smoke stack at his clinic and then used in material talking about how babies were being burned. Of course this was supposed to be used in support of Christian anti-abortion activity. And this email struck me as being rather judgmental of people who are pro-choice and rather judgmental of abortion providers. This person who sent it has put themselves out there as a grace offering follower of Christ. It struck me that the grace she offers may only stretch far. So I am through being silent.
Now don’t get me wrong. I think abortion is a tragic thing. And I am not in support of it. But I am also not in support of the way the current pro-life movement opposes it. I think it is geared in completely the wrong direction and starts in the wrong place. Instead of focusing on babies, I think it ought to focus on the mom’s and dad’s.
It is a horrible thing that babies are being killed. It really is. But, they cannot be brought back. They are no longer hurting. They are with God. And what better place is there than that. But the pro-life movement seems so intent on showing what happened to those babies. What if we were instead to focus on the moms and dads? They are the ones who are really hurting. They are the ones we can actually help. They are the ones who need grace. They are the ones who are having to live with the decisions that were made. They are the ones who need love.
I understand that whole point is to prevent from happening to more babies that which has happened to previous babies. But is it working? Have the abortion laws been overturned? Have people moved closer together? Or have they grown farther apart? If abortion laws are overturned will it really stop abortion? Do people go through with abortions to actually spite the militant pro-life movement? Is the current path really doing anything at all? I can tell you from where I sit, it looks as if it is accomplishing nothing.
But what if we were to focus on the parents? What if we were to switch gears and meet them with grace in the places where they hurt? What if all the pro-life movement put all their energy into helping the hurt and offering alternatives and gave up on the angry opposition? I know that there are places where alternatives are offered, but that is not what is in the media as the face of the pro-life movement. What if that became the face of the pro-life movement, grace, love, help, instead of anger? Would that start to bring about the moral change in our culture that will be needed make abortion rare? Changing the laws won’t really work. Legislating morality has failed time and time again.
I am no longer going to vote for public office based on this single issue. Before now, I was told that I didn’t have a choice. To vote for someone who was not pro-life was sinful. I do not believe that to be true any longer. There are many moral issues that can be traded back and forth and none of them is any more or less moral than the others.
I am not certain that this needs to be the decisive issue of our time. We act as if abortion has been occurring for 30 years. Like it was something new. Like America created it and so we are going to burn in hell because of it. It has actually been around for thousands of years. It is not a new issue to God. He has seen much more of it than we. I think he probably has a handle on it without us interfering with it in a hateful manner.
One last item. I think the hate against the physicians performing abortions also needs to stop. It is not the way Christ would treat them. I have met the local provider for these services, and he truly believes that he is providing a service that is much needed for women. He is passionate about it. I certainly think his passion is misplaced, but fighting him with anger and hatred and threats will not change his mind. Maybe love and grace will. That is what Jesus offers him. I have heard some say that they just wish that God would strike him dead. Well, God isn’t going to do that. God will forgive him.
So I think that is what I wanted to say. I welcome your comments, but I am not trying to tick anybody off or start a fight or make anybody feel bad. I am just putting some thoughts out there. If I have pushed your buttons or offended anyone in any way, I sincerely apologize. My only intent is to have a different kind of discussion about it.